I am both sad and excited about going to Buffett's Omaha this year. I am sad because Charlie Munger, a person I had tremendous admiration for, passed away last year. I'll miss his wit and wisdom. I am excited because I'll be there with both of my older kids. In addition to my son Jonah, who is soon to be graduating from CU Boulder, I'll be joined by my daughter Hannah, who is about to graduate from high school and will be going to the University of Denver in the fall. This is Jonah's fourth time and Hannah's first time to attend the Berkshire Hathaway annual meeting.
If you are going to Omaha, my friends at my favorite bookstore in the world, Hudson Booksellers, located in the Omaha airport, are running a promotion on my books. If you buy Soul in the Game, you'll get The Little Book of Sideways Markets for free.
Dad, You Are Not Growing! (Embracing Vulnerability)
“Dad, you are not growing. You’ve stopped learning new things. You used to have new, creative ideas. Lately you were just improving things that are familiar to you. This is just a copout for you from learning and creating new things.”
This is what my 18-year-old daughter, Hannah, told me in response to my idea of taking the Stoic section from Soul in the Game, polishing it, adding a few new chapters, and turning it into a small, standalone book.
I got this idea while I was listening to the Stoic chapters in Soul in the Game as I was preparing for a podcast interview with a heavy focus on Stoicism. I wanted to make sure that examples from the book were fresh in my mind.
I cannot tell you how much I hate what I am about to say, as it is impossible to say it without appearing conceited. But the truth is, the raw emotion I experienced after listening to these chapters again was, “This is really good, and so helpful.”
Although the book was published in June 2022, the manuscript went through its final edit in August 2021. Since then, I have researched a few hundred stocks, written a few hundred thousand words, read dozens of books, and listened to a few thousand hours of podcasts. Time creates distance between you and your written words. Therefore, as I listened to the Stoic chapters in Soul in the Game, as weird as it may sound, I found myself returning to those chapters more as a reader than their author. That is why I had this reaction.
I realized I could create a very accessible, small-sized, practical guide to Stoicism. I liked this idea because the almost 30,000 word Stoic section is sandwiched between the parenting and creativity sections of Soul in the Game. Also, since the book came out, I have given literally hundreds of interviews about Stoicism and have learned more about it. I’ve had new ideas.
I have done this before, kind of. My first book, Active Value Investing, had 300 pages and 75 charts and tables. John Wiley & Sons asked me to rewrite it for their Little Book series, and this is how The Little Book of Sideways Markets came about. It was 1/3 the size and had only five charts and tables. I believe the Little Book is a better version than its predecessor because I had the opportunity to improve it and cut things down. However, here is the paradox: I could not have written the Little Book without first writing the big book.
I probably would not have had the confidence to publish a standalone Stoic book. Anyway, it is this idea that triggered Hannah to give me this little lecture. After she told me this, I did not say anything, just went for a walk in the park to think about it.
As I started to think about what Hannah said, I was overwhelmed with parental pride – I realized that my wife and I had raised a student of life (a person with a growth mindset). I did not think this way when I was her age.
Hannah’s comment made me think about my circle of competence. On one side, I want to increase its circumference – learn new things – because it is on the edges where growth happens.
However, that is not the only place where it happens.
We also need to increase the density of what is inside the circle by revisiting what we think we already know. We forget. We also experience new things – and these experiences change us. This is why I believe we need to reread great books. When I reread a book, I am not the same person who read it five years ago. Experiences (life) have made me a different person. Thus, the same words have a different impact, as they are processed by a different version of me; and so I learn new things. Extracting the Stoic section from Soul in the Game and turning it into a standalone book would give me another opportunity to reread and study the Stoics.
Part of me wants to go back to the Stoics; another part wants to keep moving forward.
Most importantly, Hannah’s comment also made me think about the relationship I have with my kids. They feel comfortable telling me uncomfortable things. I had a similar gentle but frank relationship with my father. He had enough self-confidence to not be afraid of being vulnerable. At times, when we went for long walks (especially when we traveled together), he shared regrets about mistakes he made in his relationships and different choices he wished he had made at certain points in his life. This openness elevated our relationship and made me feel comfortable giving constructive feedback, similar to the feedback Hannah gave me.
I had never actually thought about this until now. I was never intentionally vulnerable with my kids; I was simply being myself, inadvertently copying the relationship my father had with me. Luckily, I had a good example to follow.
In our society, vulnerability has turned into a word you would typically hear on a Dr. Phil show. By being vulnerable, we are admitting to another human that we are also human. We are not perfect; we have made mistakes, and we have fears and regrets. As I think about it, I see it as an authentic way of removing an artificially erected barrier, unclogging communication with people who are dear to you.
After I came back from the walk, I genuinely thanked Hannah for her feedback. Also, I showed her a few dozen “thinking” essays on new topics I’ve been working on for a long time but haven’t yet published.
I have not made up my mind if I will do the little Stoic book, but if I do, I’ll call it Stoic Operating System. If you read Soul in the Game, I’d love to hear your thoughts about this idea.
If you haven’t, I’d love to hear your insights, too, right after you read the book.
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The Phantom of the Opera
This is a continuation of my journey into musicals (previous musicals).
The Phantom of the Opera was composed by Andrew Lloyd Weber, with lyrics by Tim Rice. The musical is based on the book by French author Gaston Leroux, published in 1910. Laroux wanted to become a lawyer, but luckily for us he gambled his inheritance away and became a reporter instead. As a reporter he learned of rumors surrounding a ghost living in the Paris opera house. He combined these rumors with true stories of a chandelier crashing down during a performance and an underground lake (there is indeed a lake under the opera house) and turned them into a novel, which was first published in a newspaper and then as a book. Until his death Laroux was convinced that the ghost living in the opera house was real.
The Phantom of the Opera is the ultimate gateway drug to opera. At times, except for more modern instrumentation, you really cannot tell the difference between this musical and an opera. I’ve seen this musical performed live half a dozen times, and every single time I leave the theater touched, as if I have watched it for the first time. I’d argue this is Andrew Lloyds Weber’s greatest creation.
The Phantom of the Opera is at its core a love story. Christine Daaé is a little-known soprano. From a young age she secretly takes music lessons from Erik – she calls him “Angel of Music” – who is the phantom of the opera, a ghost who lives in the entrails of the opera house and who has a deformed face (thus the mask he wears). The lead soprano calls in sick and Christine debuts at the gala performance to a great success. There she meets her childhood friend Raoul, and they fall in love. Erik, who is in love with Christine, feels betrayed… and there is a lot of jealousy, drama, mystery, kidnapping, and some murder in between. This musical does however have a happy ending. Despite his being the antagonist of the story, you feel sorry for Erik, who in the end comes through as a hero (okay, a weak hero but hero nonetheless): His love for Christine is so strong that he puts her happiness above his own and lets her be with Raoul.
I have a very personal story associated with The Phantom of the Opera. In April 2018 then-13-year-old Hannah and I went on a two-day father-daughter trip to Washington DC to see the cherry blossoms. I love Washington DC in April; it is truly a magical place. We did the usual touristy things, visiting the Smithsonian and the Newseum (the museum of news); and up to that point the highlight of Hannah’s trip was scootering around DC. As we were getting ready to fly back to Denver, we learned that the Denver airport was closed due to a blizzard.
We were delighted.
Hannah and I took a train to NYC and spent two days in Manhattan. We visited the Metropolitan Museum of Art (I love the Impressionist and Flemish painter collections). We also did the Museum of Modern Art (MOMA). (I keep going back to museums of modern art, not just in NY but in San Francisco as well, in the hope that one day I may truly enjoy them. Not yet, but I am hopeful. Hannah and I also rented bikes and rode them in Central Park. But the highlight of our NYC adventure was The Phantom of the Opera. This was Hannah’s first live musical. We were so energized after the performance that, holding hands, we played Phantom of the Opera on her iPhone, with shared AirPods, singing it while walking through Times Square. We hadn’t a care in the world. We were intoxicated by the music, and though surrounded by other tourists, we were deep in our own phantom world. If you ask Hannah what she remembers the most about our DC trip, she’ll tell you it was going to The Phantom of the Opera in NYC and singing it in Times Square.
Before we listen to excerpts from the musical, I must mention the 2004 Phantom of the Opera movie. It is a masterpiece. My favorite number in the movie, which highlights beautiful cinematography and singing, is called “Prima Donna,” about a character who is an overrated signer, masterfully played by Minnie Driver. As you watch it, note the counterpoint singing – performers singing arias independently of each other.
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Vitaliy Katsenelson is the CEO at IMA, a value investing firm in Denver. He has written two books on investing, which were published by John Wiley & Sons and have been translated into eight languages. Soul in the Game: The Art of a Meaningful Life (Harriman House, 2022) is his first non-investing book. You can get unpublished bonus chapters by forwarding your purchase receipt to bonus@soulinthegame.net.
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